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Loneliness

I have always been comfortable being alone.  I wake up early to have time on my own to write, read something positive, or meditate.  I retreat to my office for lunch to have time to regroup and process my morning.  … Continue reading

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Flat.

I am feeling flat lately. Before dday: I felt comfortable, relatively happy in my life and trusted that even though we were incredibly busy with three kids (two babies), that as time moved on and that season of my life … Continue reading

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Ah, Coping Mechanisms are Hard to Change

It has been a difficult week or so.  Along with the usual feelings of all that the holidays “should be” was a slip.  He lied.  He covered up something stupid with a lie.  What the hell?  Almost three years out, … Continue reading

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It has been a while…

I guess sometimes I think that if I try to distract myself, perhaps the pain won’t come rushing back.  I suppose it is good that it is less. In therapy this week, we talked about the pain and about the … Continue reading

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EQ, self-esteem, and exhaustion

I feel like this will not be my most coherent post, and yet, I need to share in the hopes that either getting it out will help or someone will respond in some way that makes me feel less alone. … Continue reading

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Bittersweet

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day.  I feel a bit torn about it all.  Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate moms.  It is a day to reflect on the relationships we have with our own moms and with our children–at least … Continue reading

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When the Good is Bad

I was just sitting here today wondering when good will simply feel good again.  I think you probably know what I mean.  It happens in an instant.  You are doing something with family, friends, as a couple, and you are … Continue reading

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Experiences Compounded

One of the things that has really been in my face lately is how much this betrayal has affected other life experiences.  For example, yesterday, my kids were in the car, and they noticed a gem on a sign.  They … Continue reading

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Acceptance vs. Forgiveness

It occurred to me today that I believe there really is a difference between acceptance and forgiveness, although sometimes, I think people use the words interchangeably. Acceptance is believing that this happened.  My husband had an affair.  He touched her. … Continue reading

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The facade and passing time

There will be time, there will be time To prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet; There will be time to murder and create, And time for all the works and days of hands That lift and … Continue reading

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