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Quick Check In

I am just taking a minute to check in, as it has been longer than I intended, and I wanted to update. Things have been going relatively the same for a few weeks.  I have sadness and am riding the … Continue reading

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Merging Then and Now

As I prepare to head back to work, my anxiety continues to rise.  You know how you are going along ok, and then the reality of things kind of sneaks up behind you and whacks you in the head?  Yeah. … Continue reading

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Bittersweet

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day.  I feel a bit torn about it all.  Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate moms.  It is a day to reflect on the relationships we have with our own moms and with our children–at least … Continue reading

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When the Good is Bad

I was just sitting here today wondering when good will simply feel good again.  I think you probably know what I mean.  It happens in an instant.  You are doing something with family, friends, as a couple, and you are … Continue reading

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Experiences Compounded

One of the things that has really been in my face lately is how much this betrayal has affected other life experiences.  For example, yesterday, my kids were in the car, and they noticed a gem on a sign.  They … Continue reading

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Acceptance vs. Forgiveness

It occurred to me today that I believe there really is a difference between acceptance and forgiveness, although sometimes, I think people use the words interchangeably. Acceptance is believing that this happened.  My husband had an affair.  He touched her. … Continue reading

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The facade and passing time

There will be time, there will be time To prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet; There will be time to murder and create, And time for all the works and days of hands That lift and … Continue reading

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Dday

Tomorrow is the two year mark of my Dday–my Dday antiversary.  To say that it does not bring up a lot of feelings and insecurities would be a lie.  I have had a rough week and have had some triggers. … Continue reading

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I am ENOUGH.

Do you speak those words to yourself?  Stand in front of your mirror and say them out loud over and over.  My gosh, I hope you believe them.  In the midst of all of this, I think we lose that … Continue reading

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Before and After

Isn’t that how we see it?  It’s like we are in this alternate reality.  Before the affair and then after.  Before–when our lives seemed what we thought was normal.  When we thought our significant others loved us and would never … Continue reading

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